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I’m so excited that this day is finally here! I’m ready to share Coffee & Pearls with the world. I’ve been gearing up for this for a few months and I can’t wait to unveil all that I’ve been working on for you. So before I dive into what this program is going to be about, I want to share with you why I felt so strongly about creating the Coffee & Pearls community.
I fell in love with business when I was 11. I went huckleberry picking with my family and as we were enjoying a pie made out of these amazing berries, we were lamenting that you can’t buy huckleberry pies at the store. So I had a great idea to use my brother as slave labor and my grandmother’s kitchen to make my own huckleberry pies and sell them for what seemed like a lot of money at the time. I calculated the price of all the ingredients and called the business High Rise Pies and create a cute logo. I was so into writing this business plan that I never actually got around to making any pies! But it sparked a love of business in me that has never gone away.
I continued to write business plans in high school and in college. I was always reading books about entrepreneurship, leadership and general self-improvement. Now anyone who knows me, knows that I have a sanguine personality type. If you’ve never read The Temperament God Gave You, a person with a sanguine personality type often gets very excited about new things but can sometimes lose steam and forget to finish out a task or a project. Because this is absolutely true for me, when I found myself running out of energy or excitement for a project at work or a business plan I was writing, I would turn to these self-help books to give me some extra motivation and to get me back on track.
Then all of a sudden, I had a bunch of huge life changes all at once. I converted to Catholicism, got married, moved to a new city where I didn’t know anyone and had a baby all within one year! Now at first, these changes all seemed exciting to me. But as the newness wore off, I found myself feeling lonely, bored, attending a church that wasn’t very welcoming and terrible at my new vocation of housewife and mom.
To overcome my slump, I turned to the books that had always helped me. But instead of giving me hope, most of them made me discouraged. They made the life of a business entrepreneur look shiny and fun compared to changing diapers and living a life around naptimes. They focused on making more money and growing empires which didn’t really apply to my current situation. My self esteem plumetted even more.
Then I had the idea of turning to books about the Saints. Here I was, a new Catholic, and one of the cool things about our faith is this treasure trove we have of saints and their biographies or autobiographies. But those books didn’t turn out to be helpful either. I wasn’t about to give away all my possessions and live as a monk in 16th century France, so… the wisdom didn’t feel particularly relevant to my life.
I was complaining to my husband that many of the saints had visions of Mary or Jesus giving them guidance about what they should do. I said, “If Jesus came down and told me what to do, I’d DO it! I’d do it even if it was hard.” My husband listened to my pouting and gently suggested I go to adoration and pray about it.
In adoration I stared up at Jesus and begged, “Jesus, if you’d just tell me what to do, I’ll do it! Do you want me to stay at home with my kids or do you want me to use my talents (which you gave me) to start a business or do you want me to volunteer more? Whatever you want, just tell me and I’ll do it!”
And that’s when I heard God whisper into my heart, “I’ve already told you what to do.” And in that moment, I realized He absolutely had told me what to do. He had, in no uncertain terms, told me to be a wife and a mother. So many women spend years discerning their vocation but God had already shown me mine. I swallowed my pride and realized that I had just told Jesus that I would do whatever He told me to do even if I didn’t like it and even it was hard.
It was in that moment that I realized I was going to have to learn how to be happy living in Toddler Land because I was probably going to be there for a while.
So with renewed energy and a better attitude, I went back to my books. I tried harder to use the wisdom on those pages and apply it to my life. And you know what I found? That kids are a lot like employees. Husbands are a lot like business partners. We all need to work on time management, goal setting, budgeting and setting priorities. And the saint books helped me too! I discovered that all the saints were sinners just like me. All of them struggled with self-control. I could use their wisdom to help me get through my days living in modern day suburbia.
The more I learned, the more I wanted to share this information with others and that’s why I started Coffee & Pearls.
I know many of you are struggling. It’s hard to be a mom. Many of us are isolated even though we live in a city of thousands of people. Many of us were never taught how to manage a house or be effective parents. And I know a lot of you feel like you’re drowning so the idea of picking up a few self-help books and actually reading them seems impossible. So I’m here to help!
I’m going to read self-improvement books about business, leadership, time management etc. and I’m also going to read religious books about the saints and how to grow closer to God and I’m going to pull out the points that I feel are relevant to modern day Catholic moms.
Each episode will feature a video, an audio format of the video so you can listen to it on your phone, a written article about the video that recaps all the major points and a worksheet for you to fill out to help you put the pearls of wisdom into practice! Pick which format is best for you and enjoy a new Coffee & Pearls episode every Monday!
I’m really hoping to create a community around Coffee & Pearls. Moms, we need Jesus and we need each other to stay on track. We can always be improving our strategies for being wives, mothers and house managers! Together we can create new habits that make our lives run more smoothly and that help us form relationships that build us up and lead us closer to Christ.
Thanks for being part of Coffee & Pearls! Have a blessed Day!