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Most days I wake up knowing what I’m going to tackle. I thought about it the night before. I might have even made a list of what was to come. I also try to take a few moments to visualize me crushing my goals for the day. These two things will go a long way to you running your day instead of letting your day run you.
But sometimes… I haven’t done these two things. I haven’t prepared the night before. I wake up feeling like I just want to hide in bed and avoid everything I have to do for the day. Sometimes I dread all the errands, the sibling squabbles, the toddler crying, and I even dread the bad things I just know are going to pop up even though I haven’t thought of them yet.
Yes, sometimes I wake up in a dark place.
I’m very grateful that a friend of mine was reading The Five Second Rule and told me how much she liked it. I Googled it and found that the author, Mel Robbins, has a Ted Talk (Watch Here) about the same topic. For those of you who want to read instead, here’s an article summing up this idea: http://melrobbins.com/five-elements-5-second-rule/
She says, “The 5 Second Rule is simple. If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it.”
Basically, we have about five seconds from the moment an idea pops into our mind about something that we ought to do before our brain starts talking us out of doing that thing. As soon as I heard what she had to say, I instantly knew exactly what she was talking about. I have experience that negotiation so many times where my brain starts coming up with reasons why we shouldn’t workout or we don’t really have to sit down and do school with Rose right now. That voice usually sounds a lot like, “We can do it later.”
What I love about this concept so much is that it speaks to what I suspect a lot of women are suffering from. Many women tell me that they feel overwhelmed and they don’t know where to start or how to prioritize. But I think a lot of us are actually just staring at our living room, paralyzed about what we know we should do. If I asked you right now what three things you need to do today that would help your life, you could probably tell me.
The things is, those tasks are yucky. We don’t want to do them. We don’t feel like it.
Enter the five second rule. As soon as something pops into your mind, “I should do some laundry,” immediately begin counting down. You are now a Mom Rocket. 5-4-3-2-1 Blast off! You move your body and you take care of this right away.
I would like to add another layer to this already awesome concept. I would like to add the 15 Minute Sprint. I find that almost everything I need to do around my house, can be done in less than 15 minutes. It feels like an overwhelming burden because the list is long or I’ve been staring at my kids for 2 hours and I feel guilt over my lack of progress but in truth, I can slam out some amazing things in 15 minutes.
I want you to try turning your life into a game. How much can you get done in 15 minutes? You know you’re capable of amazing things because when you get a call that your mother-in-law is stopping by in 15 minutes, you can Wonder Woman tidy your house like WWIII depended on it.
This week, try combining these two strategies. First, act on your goals within five seconds of thinking of them. Don’t let your brain trick you into paralysis. Second, once you start working, push yourself to work as fast as you can so you can complete your task in 15 minutes. Once you’ve done this a few times, you’re going to start feeling confident! You’ll be pleased by the work that is done AND you’ll feel better about sitting on the couch and staring at your kids after you’ve gotten a few household things done first!
Here is a worksheet that you can use to write out all the 15 minute, 30 minute, and 60 minute tasks you can accomplish. Then, when you find a pocket of time, you can 5-4-3-2-1 yourself and dive right into one!