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If you’ve been following Coffee & Pearls for the last two years, you know I’ve had a crazy life. Between buying a fence company, having a new baby, writing three books, and homeschooling… my life has been busy!

The other day, my husband came home and asked me how my day was. I took a big sigh and said, “It was so hard!” He paused for a moment and gently said, “You know, you say that almost every single day.”

I considered that for a moment. Do I really say that every day is hard? And I had to admit that yes, yes I do say that. It’s really easy for me to toss that word around.

Church was hard.

Dinner was hard.

Taking the kids to the park was hard.

My day was hard.

And yet when I stepped back and thought about the week as a whole, I thought, “We had a fine week!” I thought of the positive things that I remembered. So why was it hard for me to see this on a day-to-day basis?

It’s easy for us to be slaves to our feelings. I feel tired, irritated, thwarted, touched out, not enough, overwhelmed, etc. We allow ourselves to dwell in these feelings without stepping back to question them.

So when my husband comes home from work and asks how my day was, I feel flooded by these difficult feelings and I tell him the day was long and hard.

Ever since he pointed that out to me, I’ve been challenging myself to strike that word from my vocabulary. I’m trying to use different words to describe what motherhood is like all day long. No word could adequately describe what I actually experience. I find that I experience the full range of my feelings every single day from joy to madness and everything in between.

Yet when I look back on my week, I am pleased with what I’ve done, I’m so happy to be the mother of my children, and I feel pretty good about my life in general.

The word that has resonated the most with me has been “full.” My day was full. My heart is full. My cup of coffee needs to be full!

Peter and his companions were very sleepy, but when they became fully awake, they saw his glory and the two men standing with him.
Luke 9:32

The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.
John 1:14

Half an hour’s meditation is essential except when you are very busy. Then a full hour is needed.
St. Francis de Sales

Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take with you nothing that you have received – only what you have given: a full heart, enriched by honest service, love, sacrifice and courage.
St. Francis of Assissi


My hope for you is that you too can turn hard days into full days. Love Jesus fully with your heart. Be present fully with your family. Allow yourself to be full of the Holy Spirit!

Thank you everyone who downloaded, purchased, reviewed, and read my new book Not Of This World. You all are amazing! All the audio files from my minimalism videos are available on the Catholic Minimalism podcast on iTunes! You can easily download it through the apple podcast app or you can go here to catch it: