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I’ve been wanting to talk more about the idea that we must “be a scientist” when it comes to our own life. No one will be better at understanding you than… you.

Being a scientist means that we can objectively step back from our own situation to assess what’s going on. What’s working? What’s not working? What things can I control and what things can I not control? And perhaps most important, what is my desired outcome?

Now don’t get me wrong, if you’re happy, that’s awesome. If you are content in your situation, rock on. I’m talking to those of us who feel a sense of unrest. We want something to be different but we can’t seem to make it happen.

It is so easy for us to act like victims to all the things around us. I’m guilty of this all the time. I often act as if “I couldn’t possibly have done x, y, and z” because of the awful day I had. But the truth is, if it were the zombie apocalypse, I would do incredibly hard things for 12+ hours a day.

Humans are capable of amazing feats. Most of us are simply clinging to comfort and consumerism which gets in the way of achieving our potential.

There are many different aspects of our lives that we want to change. I want to first focus on growing in our faith life because really, this should always be the first thing we focus on but I also believe that by diving deeper into our faith life, we can gain clarity on prioritizing the rest of our lives and the strength to really make lasting changes.

I’m going to use some quotes from saints to help deliver some tough love about how important it is to be honest with ourselves, to work hard, and to have a deep faith life.

This is the very perfection of a man, to find out his own imperfections. -St. Augustine

To live is to change, and to be perfect is to have changed often. -Bl. John Henry Cardinal Newman

Let us begin in earnest to work out our salvation, for no one will do it for us, since even He Himself, Who made us without ourselves, will not save us without ourselves. -St. Margaret Mary Alacoque

You must ask God to give you power to fight against the sin of pride which is your greatest enemy – the root of all that is evil, and the failure of all that is good. For God resists the proud. -St. Vincent de Paul

You cannot be half a saint; you must be a whole saint or no saint at all. -St. Therese of Lisieux

I hope you’re feeling fired up! Now I want you to make some time this week to sit down and ask yourself, what is holding you back from living a more faithful life? How can you be a better Catholic?

After you go through this exercise, you might want to tackle another area of your life. Why are you not losing weight? Why are you stressed all the time? Why is your marriage uncomfortable? Why do you feel like a bad mom?

It’s so easy for us to see patterns and weaknesses in our friends. Your job is to step back from your own life and assess what’s really going on. No excuses. What are you capable of?

In the end, you may decide you aren’t willing to take on the pain and discomfort to change. That’s okay! But hopefully identifying that and saying it out loud will give you more peace about your current situation.

If you’re feeling brave, pop on over to Facebook and share your experience! If you just want some love and support, feel free to email me. It’s my full name at!